“So, you don’t have a dick?” – Ian
“I have several, they’re made of silicone.” – Trevor (Shameless, season 7 )
It started with a sock and then came Mr. Limpy.
That was my introduction to the world of packers.
Yes, this post is all about packers.
It’s not exactly easy for me to write about this topic, but if I’m not going to be open about my experience as a TransMama buying her son dicks online *audible gasp* then there really isn’t any point to this website.
So here it goes.
Packers.
My education on packers came at a quick pace. I didn’t know of their existence before my son came out.
A few weeks before telling us that he was transgender, I noticed a bulge in his crotch area. Believe me, I wasn’t looking for it, but it was obvious so I had to ask what was in his pants?
He told me that it was “nothing” but I pushed back and said “no, there’s clearly something in your pants, what is it?”
He reluctantly pulled out a rolled up sock and showed it to me.
I asked “why are you doing this?” (Remember this is pre-coming-out)
He said he didn’t know why and when I tried to ask further questions, he just shutdown so I dropped it.
Fast-forward a month or two and my son now wants a real packer. I didn’t know anything about them, but he tells me there’s a really cheap/popular one called Mr. Limpy.
Now here’s what I found out about different styles of packers – Mr. Limpy costs about $12 and is a perfect replacement for a “sock” style packer. Some trans men use this simply for the bulge effect as it can fit nicely into tight underwear without moving too easily.
Mr. Limpy is not for sexual penetration or for using it at a urinal. However, this packer was a great starter for my trans son.
After a few more months, our son asked if he could get a more realistic packer; one that he could use to stand-to-pee (STP).
There is a huge price range on STP packers, $15 was the cheapest I could find online but they don’t get the best reviews. Our son found one for about $800 that was custom-made with exact skin tone for the most realistic experience.
At first he approached us with the hefty price tag and asked us if we could pay half and he would pay the other half.
My husband and I spoke about this scenario for about 1 minute before determining that this was a ‘medical expense’ and we would pay for the entire cost.
After all, we would pay for braces, eyeglasses, hearing aids…why wouldn’t we pay for him to have the ability to pee standing up?!
His skin color samples for the STP packer came fairly quickly and he let me look at them and touch the product. It was very impressive how realistic the skin looked and felt. After deciding what skin tone to use, the company customized the packer and it arrived about three months later.
When it arrived, god-love-him, our trans son asked if I wanted to see it and I humbly declined. I think I said something like, “No, I don’t need to see my teenage son’s penis.” Or maybe I just said that in my head.
He didn’t seem offended, so I hope it was ok of me to say that.
I know he practiced using it to pee standing up at home before taking it out into the world.
I also noticed his confidence going into the men’s restroom and even using a urinal!
I won’t lie and say this STP packer is 100% foolproof. There have been a few occasions where something didn’t work right and he came out of the restroom embarrassed. However, overall this particular packer has been AHmazing for our trans son.
For those trans parents curious about packers, in addition to basic packers (like Mr. Limpy) and STP packers, there are also Pack n Play packers for sexual penetration.
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