“So, you don’t have a dick?” – Ian“I have several, they’re made of silicone.” – Trevor (Shameless, season 7 ) It started with a sock and then came Mr. Limpy. That was my introduction to the world of packers. Yes, this post is all about packers. It’s not exactly easy for me to write about thisContinue reading “Transgender Packers.”
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All Gender Restrooms.
In the past two years, I’ve been counting the number of businesses that I’ve frequented who have opted for the inclusive “all gender” bathrooms. Although, “counting” is kind of a generous word as my number is exactly five. Of course, this is in the San Diego area and there may be more or less dependingContinue reading “All Gender Restrooms.”
Trans on TV.
Growing up in a small town with a deeply religious family, I’m sorry to say that the first gay people I met were actually Will Truman and Jack McFarland. Ok, I didn’t actually meet them. But once I became an adult, I invited them into my home on a weekly basis and learned a lotContinue reading “Trans on TV.”
T-Day!
After detailed instructions and a few practice injections, the nurse hands our transgender son his first dose of testosterone and tells him he’s ready to go! He’s hesitant to self-inject, but with the kind assurance from the nurse, he’s able to complete the task. Next, he covers the injection site with a band-aid, while theContinue reading “T-Day!”
Beach Memory.
One of our family’s favorite places to spend an afternoon is the beach. I mean how does it get any better than having your toes in the sand, the smell of saltwater in the air, the stickiness of sunscreen, and the taste of chilled fruit from your cooler. On one particular outing, my transgender sonContinue reading “Beach Memory.”
Were there signs?
It’s typically the second or third question I get asked when someone recognizes that I have a transgender kid. Honestly, I think it’s an innocent enough question and one that I don’t mind answering because every story is different. Some transgender children recognize as toddlers that they don’t identify with their assigned sex. This amountsContinue reading “Were there signs?”
Perfect.
The first thing I learned about the transgender experience, is that they are all unique. Some individuals identify as trans without doing a single thing to alter their appearance. No hormone therapy. No surgeries. Just trans. Hearing this scared me to my core. How can I research, learn, and help my son with his transitionContinue reading “Perfect.”
Ornaments.
We go all out for Christmas. From decorations to gifts, ice skating and cookies. No family traditions are missed this time of year. Of course decorating the Christmas tree is our favorite part! We all get a new ornament each year, so there are plenty to look at and reminisce of past years’ hobbies andContinue reading “Ornaments.”
Misgendered.
Our son has been expressing himself as a boy for the past year. But gender expression is not gender identity so I don’t blame those who inadvertently misgender him. Imagine you are looking at someone and can’t tell what pronouns to use. A binder, male clothes, and male haircut, sometimes isn’t enough for an averageContinue reading “Misgendered.”
I’m so sad.
I sit on the floor in the corner of my room with a pencil and my journal, tears glide down my cheeks one after another. I’m hiding. I don’t want her…. I mean him to see me cry. He won’t understand why I need to release a rush of tears. He will see my acheContinue reading “I’m so sad.”
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